So I wasn\’t going to post this. I wasn\’t even going to put down these thoughts because my mind was conflicted.

However, the thought has been with me since last night and I\’m learning not to hesitate when it comes to sharing.

So here it goes.


I grew up thinking I never had a choice. I guess as a child that was all fine and good because I was a child and as such I couldn\’t make a lot of decisions for myself.However, as I grew up and grew older I still felt like I never had a choice. I felt like my life was set in stone and I could never question anyone. If I was told to do something I never thought I could say no. I always felt like I had to agree to everything and accept everything. I had opinions and I had views, I had thoughts concerning issues, but it just never occurred to me that I could choose. It never occurred to me that I could say no, that if I didn\’t want to do something I didn\’t have to. I mean, I did things for the mere reason that I was asked to do them. Even things I didn\’t agree with and things I low key felt were wrong.

The realisation that I had a choice in everything, a choice in life came to me when I was reading Chimamanda Adichie\’s book \”Americanah\”. It was then I realised that you always have a choice. In EVERYTHING. Nothing is set in stone and if something makes you uncomfortable you have the right the choose and the right to back away and the right to say no.

It\’s such a simple revelation, but I know I\’m not the only person who has felt like they never had a choice. But hey, you do have a choice. Your choices may not please everyone, actually, they most definitely will not please everyone, but that\’s fine. You were not brought to this world to make everyone happy.

So the next time you\’re faced with a decision, the next time someone asks you to do something, or tells you to do something, the next time you feel stuck in life, remember this. You have a choice. You have a choice to move on, a choice to grow, a choice to achieve. You have a choice to do whatever you want to do. Nothing is set in stone and honestly, in most cases the worst that\’ll happen is someone might be disappointed. But like I said. You didn\’t come to this world to please everyone, you didn\’t come to this world to do things simply because you were asked. You have a choice, it\’s your life and therefore you have a say. In the things you do, the places you go, the people you interact with and everything in between !

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