To Be or Not To Be?!

We met some four years ago, and something in my soul just knew I needed to know this girl.


Have you ever been so sure of something you would do anything for it, but you have no idea why?

This was the story of my friend and I…

I met her in my first year of University at a CU (Christian Union) meeting.
Now that I think about it. It all happened in a weird way.
Let me explain…

I wasn’t a part of the CU and that was like the first and last CU meeting I attended, and at the time, she wasn’t even a student at my Uni, so really, the chances of us meeting the way we did were very slim.

But anyways, back to my story.
It was a Christmas carol rehearsal like thing, and I was eager to meet other Christians at my school, so I decided to attend it.
So I\’m sitting in the music room, not knowing anyone in the group, and in walks this beautiful black young lady. Now, the fact that she was black caught my attention, but what moved me was her voice! OMG! She sang a Christmas song, (I can\’t even remember the song) but her voice blew me away, … I was low key jealous and desperately wanted to meet her *covers face*.
After the meeting, we talked and it was like we had known each other for ages! She told me her name, where she was from, etc and the rest was history!
Funny thing about this story is that, after the rehearsal, and the actual Christmas carol thing, I didn’t see this young lady for over a year! To make things worse, both of us weren\’t necessarily the best at communicating so it wasn’t like we were talking 24/7 or even once a month or anything like that either!
So, all this happened December 2012.
Fast forward to the spring of 2014 and we finally saw ourselves after all that time, and just like that, we picked up from where we left off!
Again, it was like we had been friends forever, it was like no time had passed at all.
Between 2014 and 2016 we had about 9 months were we had absolutely zero communication, but for some reason, the thought of deleting her number or moving on with my life without her was just not something I could consider.
Now, the thing is, I love Miss X. No she isn\’t perfect, and we have a LOT of differences, but I love her, and I will always fight for what we have, because ours was no meeting of chance. It was ordained by God. She inspires me to be a better person and every minute spent with her is a minute spent learning something new.

Sometimes God brings people specifically into our lives, and those people have a purpose in our lives. However, in some cases, you have to fight to keep those relationships going. Not because both of you can\’t stand the sight of each other, or because you never have anything to talk about.

Sometimes it\’s because you both live in two different time zones and your night time is his/her day time, or because you both work crazy hours and finding time is really hard etc. it could be for a number of reasons, but the thing is, some relationships are worth it.
When you have someone in your life, that you love unconditionally, you fight for that person. You don’t think of the fact that he/she hasn’t replied to your last 10 messages and hasn’t picked your last 20 calls. You don’t think about the fact that you haven\’t seen yourselves in ages or any of those things. I mean, sure, it hurts when your texts go un-answered and maybe you even say to yourself, this is the last straw! I give up! But, if its set up by God, even when you\’ve said it\’s the last straw, somehow, when he/she calls you, at 1 am and says \”I need you\” you forget all that. And when it\’s 1 am and you call him/her and you don’t get his/her voicemail… then you know it\’s worth it.
Because the moments you have together, the memories you share. The tears you\’ve cried, the songs you’ve sang and the prayers you’ve prayed all come back to you, and you remember why it\’s all worth it.

Love is not selfish, and love bears all things. Some relationships are legitimately worth fighting for.. Not all of them, but some..
And when you do find such relationships/people, you should fight for them with all you\’ve got, cause believe it or nah, those are not things you find every day.

To be honest she is one of the only people I have ever experienced this sort of friendship with. Sure I have other friends whom I love dearly and unconditionally, but this one, lol, has been an interesting ride. But believe it or not, I would do it again.
Maybe I\’m the only one who has experienced something like this, but I doubt that…
I would love to hear your stories too if you have any!

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