Random Thoughts on Abuse and Society

So today, I want to talk briefly about abuse in relationships. \"nervous\"To be honest, I do not know where to begin. So I am pretty much going to do a word vomit and hope for the best.
Recently, I have been in contact with people, young women and girls, who have been victims of physical and emotional abuse. And every time I hear one of these stories, my heart breaks a little because no one deserves to be raped, assaulted or abused by anyone.
Whenever I hear these stories, there is usually one thing that stands out in all of them. A sense of entitlement and a lack of respect. These are two things, in my opinion, that causes people to treat other humans as objects and not people.

No matter who you are, you aren\’t that important and turning to violence because you don\’t get what you want doesn\’t make you a \”bigger, better or stronger\” person.

I have never understood people who felt entitled to other people. \"idgi\"People who think that because they are in a relationship with someone they by default own the person.
It baffles me how some men can say, \”If you do not date me, you can\’t date anyone else\” and then proceed to become physical if the person doesn\’t agree.
It is easy to say, \”Oh the person has a history of violence\”, or find some excuse to justify the persons\’ actions, but the truth is, those are just excuses used to protect abusive people.
In my opinion, the root of the problem lies in a society that teaches people to \”get what they want at all costs\”. A society that doesn\’t teach us to respect people, especially women. And at the end of the day, we have men (and women) who think their mere existence is a blessing, and everyone should fall at their feet in awe and wonder. However, the truth is no matter who you are, you aren\’t that important and turning to violence because you do not get what you want doesn\’t make you a \”bigger, better or stronger\” person. It just makes you immature and petty.\"I
The way society is set up we unconsciously train young men to view women as secondary to men. Sometimes, it appears that women are prizes to be “won”. Maybe it is because men pay obscene amounts in bride price, or spend so much while wooing a woman. Whatever the reason is, it breeds a mindset of unhealthy ownership which often spirals into abuse.
To my way of thinking, if you say you \”own\” a human, then that makes you a slave owner. You don\’t get a woman as a prize for all your hard work. You also don\’t get a woman to be your slave. That\’s not what a relationship is.
Long and short of the story is this. Abuse is a horrible thing for anyone to go through. It doesn’t matter if you are male or female, abuse is horrible. However, it is very prevalent in our society and we, need to speak up about it. The time of enduring it in silence is past. Now is the time to speak up and to make a difference.

I know this is a different post from what I usually write, but I would love to hear back from you. Please comment, like and share. Also, if you want to share your story or experience, feel free to email me at shaybolanta@gmail.com

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