Often, when I write, I write from personal experience or from personal observations I\’ve made. This doesn\’t mean that when I\’m not writing I\’m not observing or experiencing though! lol 🙂
So, why did I start with that?
I was thinking to myself today about how \”no one\” (I don\’t mean this literally) has buzzed me in a bit. I was mulling the idea around in my head and I came to the conclusion that everyone most likely thinks I am busy or something like that. Which although is true, is not an excuse
for them or me either tbh.
I have learnt in my short time on this earth, that often when people withdraw, stop talking as often as they used to, or become \”busy\” there is usually a reason.
It\’s either someone got tired of being the only one putting effort into the relationship, something is going on in their personal life health or otherwise, some sort of offense occurred, or they are actually busy and at those times hearing from loved ones can be very therapeutic.
Human beings are selfish by nature. We only want to do what is best for us. We only want to take care of ourselves. We want person A to do so and so for us, but we aren\’t ready to do anything in return. We are lazy when it comes to others but hardworking when it comes to ourselves. It shouldn\’t be that way. I mean, yes, you should take care of yourself, but at the same time, you should take care of the people in your life. The people who surround you.
We are often reminded to be the friends we want to have. This means, if you want a friend that checks up on you often, then check up on your friends often. If you want a friend that takes you out then take your friends out. If you want a friend that sacrifices for you, then be ready to make sacrifices for your friends.
Call your friends more. If you don\’t hear from someone stop thinking \”if the person wanted to talk he/she would call\” you don\’t know where the person is in his/her life. Do nice things without expecting something in return. Be the friend you want to have. Fight the selfish nature in you. Love without reservations. Yes, not everyone will reciprocate to the same extent, but 1) that shouldn\’t stop you and 2) that shouldn\’t make you turn nonchalant to those that actually need you.
At the end of the day, I guess the take home message is, don\’t get too comfortable with your friends and loved ones. Don\’t get so comfortable that you take them for granted. remember that they too are human. We are called to love, the sooner we realise this, the better.
Thank you so much for reading today\’s post! I hope you enjoyed it! Feel free to comment and share!
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