I found myself thinking about what I wrote in part one of \”Just a Little Love\”, and while I was thinking about it, I realized I had left something out.
In our quest to receive and experience love in its pure and unconditional form, one of the first things we must do is learn to love ourselves. One of my favorite verses in the Bible says we should \”love our neighbors as we love ourselves\”, and if you think about it, this does not only apply to the love we give but also the love we receive. Think about it, until we get to a point where we love ourselves fully, flaws and all, we cannot truly accept the love we deserve from others.
Self-love is not all about bubble baths and walks in the park. It is about seeing ourselves for who we are with all our insecurities and shortcomings. It is also about affirming ourselves, not from a place of complacency but a place of growth. The truth is, sometimes we look for love in everyone and everything because we do not know what the love we desire looks like, and we are too scared to dig into ourselves and figure it out.
And it\’s hard these days to look at ourselves and strip back the layers because society has told us what we should be, and many of us don\’t fit into that box. And that is scary.
But if you haven\’t come to a place of understanding and compassion for yourself, how do you expect someone else to give you that? Because the truth is, if you don\’t know your worth and what you desire and deserve, then it could walk up to you and pass you by, and you wouldn\’t notice.
I think that when we come to a place of true self-acceptance, we become more aware of the love we deserve, and we know that if someone does not love us the way we love them, it is not an attack on us, it is just that we don\’t speak the same language and that\’s fine.
Ultimately when we look for love, we are looking for a safe space. We are looking for a place where we can be one hundred percent ourselves and not worry about the repercussions. That space isn\’t always roses and sunshine, and to be comfortable receiving that from someone, we must be comfortable receiving it from ourselves.
Your love for yourself should feel like a Haven because, in that state of love, you will be unwilling to allow anyone to desecrate your space. And less likely to do the same to someone else\’s space.
The love we desire exists only in the Father, but that doesn\’t mean we can\’t experience love from people. But before you go about banging on people\’s doors, think about the love you have and the love you give.