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Keep Your Peace

IMG_20181202_125413__01     This year was particularly difficult for me. It’s funny because looking, at this time last year I was at the beginning of my downward spiral. At the time though, I thought I had hit rock bottom, I didn’t realise it was just the beginning. LOL

     As the year is slowly coming to an end, I am forced to look back and reflect on the progress I have made. In the earlier parts of the year, I often said I didn’t want to do life anymore. I broke down a few times, almost gave up a few times but somehow I managed to make it this far. (Thank you, Jesus!)

     Here is the thing though. Somewhere along the line, I realised it was okay for me to put myself first. I had to decide if I was doing things because I wanted to or because I was trying to prove a point. I had to accept the fact that my gas tank was almost empty and it meant I couldn’t do certain things anymore. I had to choose wisely and be proactive about my peace, my rest, my mental health. These probably sound like obvious steps to many people, but they weren’t to me. They were difficult, and every time I thought I had things figured out, something would happen to push me right back to edge.ugh
However, towards the end of the year, I found myself cutting me some slack. You might find it surprising, but it was a difficult thing for me to do. You see, I’m quite good at telling people to look out for themselves, to extend the same kindness they extend to others to themselves. However, I am terrible at taking my advice. (I’m getting better at it!)

     I guess at the end there is one thing that has remained true for me this year. Sometimes life is difficult, other times it doesn’t feel as challenging. The truth is though, that life is always moving. It doesn’t stand still for you.

There will always be something begging for your time and your attention. You have to realise that creating your peace and enjoying that peace is your responsibility

There will always be something begging for your time and your attention. You have to realise that creating your peace and enjoying that peace is your responsibility because best believe, life isn’t going to hand you any if you let it. And when you find that peace, you need to protect it.

Sometimes this involves cutting people off or making space for new people. It might be saying no to an opportunity, or saying yes to something new. Whatever it is, it’s your responsibility to look out for your peace. The role your mind plays is too important a role in your life to take for granted, and so it is vital that you look out for it in whatever way necessary. Take the steps needed, be proactive and keep your peace.

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What are You Thankful for?

A few weeks ago, I was talking with someone and she asked me what I was thankful for. I replied with “I’m thankful for my family.” In my mind, my family was a good thing to be thankful for, but lol, she wasn’t impressed.

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She said, “Well, it’s good to be thankful for your family, but they are not here with you. So what are you thankful for that happened today? Because it’s important to be able to be thankful or happy about things that happen in your everyday life.”

This got me thinking, and I realised that, although generally, I am thankful for many things in my life, I find it hard to see and acknowledge good things in my day-to-day life/activities.

I’ve come to learn that in life, it’s important to find joy in the small things. It is important that you don’t let situations you go through steal your peace and happiness. Life happens in stages and seasons. Sometimes you have a lot of sunshine, and on those days, it’s easy to say “Oh wow, God is good.” However, what happens when the clouds cover the sun and the winds roar? How do you deal and overcome those situations?idk

All my life, people have told me the usual “give thanks in all situations,” but I never understood it. To me, it felt like people were living in denial (in some cases they were tbh, but that’s for another day!). However, I am starting to look at it differently. The idea of giving thanks in all situations isn’t about pretending that x, y, and z aren’t happening. Rather, it’s about acknowledging the fact that although those things are happening, there is still something good in your life.

Deciding to be thankful shifts your focus from all the bad around you to the good. It isn’t always easy to do, but it’s necessary. Why? Well, sometimes the things that aren’t going right might be overwhelming. They might make it seem like there is no hope. If you keep focusing on these situations and their accompanying thoughts, you might end up in a dark place. However, when you are able to look at all the darkness and find a beautiful lone star, that star might be enough to get you going.

It’s easy to say “well nothing good happened today”, but the truth is, the things you are thankful for don’t have to be massive things. You don’t have to win the lotto or get a raise before being thankful. It can be over something as small as what you had for dinner, jollof-rice

 

or an enlightening conversation you had.

Personally, I think choosing to be thankful daily, causes you to analyse your day and find the good in it. Take my day for example. I got to work this morning and everything that could go wrong went wrong. By lunchtime, I was ready to go home and cry. Ordinarily, I would have said, I really don’t have anything to be thankful for. However, as I write this, I’m looking out the window by my desk (it’s a beautiful view) and counting all I have to be thankful for. I somehow got inspiration for this piece, (I was really stressed about what I would write about) I had a nice salad for lunch (I like good food) and to top it off, I found something I had been looking for to complete my experimental setup. So yea, maybe my day didn’t start out great and maybe nothing happened the way I wanted it to, but I can, and I have chosen to look back and be thankful.change

Moral of the story, choosing to be thankful is honestly the only way to keep going on at times. Some call it looking at the bright side, but irrespective of what it’s called, it’s a powerful tool for dealing with trying times.

Finally, lol, coming to this realisation prompted me to join a friend on twitter in finding something to be thankful for, every day. I have found it quite helpful (and challenging tbh) and today, I am inviting you to join me.  Use the hashtag #Iamthankful to post something you are thankful for every day. You can do it for a week, a month the rest of the year; it’s entirely up to you! But give it a try!

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